"Do those without children have the same deduction? No. You of all people should not be asking others to reimburse you or give you financial breaks based upon personal choices you have made. "

Does not matter we all do not pay at the same tax rate which we would have to for your arguement to be valid. Secondly there are incentives in the tax code to populate the country. To generate more tax payers to the benefit of the aged and infirm on a continued basis. So the tax deductions for children and marriage acutally have the reverse effect of your scenario.