my comments: what was she thinking to be putting a walker on top of some glasses in the first place? stressed or not, thats just common sense, you had more than she did in the situation. as for who pays, id say both too (just to make her happy) not because you are wrong, i remember years ago when i was married and i noticed alot of money being spent either at the gas station, lunch for her cousins/grandma from the pizza place, and the ole 40 bucks cash out of the cash machine, i finally told her to get her own damn account, if she was using my money to buy her friends lunch, pay for weed (caught her smoking it), then get the hell off my account! after she left, i had alot more money.