TK,

Well look who's calling who clueless! You said,
"Anything that is a choice is preventable." That will be true just as soon as certainty is a given. No person can know, with absolute certainty, that the person they are considering marrying will not turn into an abusive or intolerable partner. Therefore, the only way to prevent making a wrong choice is to choose to do nothing. As I said in my previous post, the only people who don't make mistakes are those who do nothing. That includes you, but you're so self rightous that it doesn't seem likely you'd ever be aware of it.

Sincerely,

Salmo g.