Guess I best chime in here...sadly, I likely have the most experience with divorce of anyone on the board.

Been married 4 times, been through three divorces. This wife I'm keeping....and she's keeping me.

The best cure for the emotional issues of divorce is TIME. It takes lots of TIME for the memories (bad ones) to fade out. Don't dwell on them..and if you find yourself dwelling on the fights, arguments and issues that you fought about then FIND SOMETHING TO DO that can take your mind off of it.

AVOID new relationships...cause until you have dealt with the issues from the previous marriage anything new hasn't got a chance of making it.

Drinking or drugs are no escape..at all. When you sober up the problems are still there, and you have gained -0-, NADA.

Unless you are near retirement age, remember that YOU CAN ALWAYS MAKE MORE MONEY. This is not what an attorney will tell you, but you need to consider how much sh1t you will have to go through just to keep a few of the $ from the marriage...most of the time it ain't worth it. Within reason, I'm for just giving her the damn money and other crap she wants (you can ALWAYS buy more "stuff").

If there are kids involved, make sure you get very clear visitation, or custody, rights. STAY in your kids lives. Thisn will mean giving up a lot of fishing weekends to see them.....it is most important as someday that relationship you have with your kids will be far more important than anything else.

STUFF is just that....STUFF! You can always get more STUFF...so don't give yourself a coronary fighting with the future ex-biznatch over pennies and dimes...it is just not worth the stress.

PLAN for your future. Consider some things you would like to do, and DO THEM.

Tons more advice and thoughts on this...but believe me, there is life after divorce, and it can be a GOOD LIFE....

.........and it starts with you letting go of the past, and the anger/pain/angst/stress of the divorce. You don't like/love her anymore, and she doesn't like/love you anymore. What else is there to consider? It's over.

Mike