I'm not proud of my divorces, but I am proud of how I survived. You will too. Yes, get a good attorney.......and good doesn't mean expensive. I spent $17K on my second divorce and I lost everything.......and I filed. Attorneys love long, drawn out divorces with lots of paperwork being filed constantly....cha ching. I could tell you horror stories of my clients and their divorces. Best thing to do is meet with a couple of different DIVORCE attorneys in their half hour free consultation offerings. Give them the facts in a nut shell and take notes.

Be nice to the ex and I know it's not easy...but it helps a little. Good luck.