divorce should be the last answer...

i dont see any mention of communicating about these problems with her.

it might sound shallow, but her income would be a factor on the plus side for me as well. with whats going on in our world right now, financial security is very important.


it is nice out, do daily walks with her for 30 min to an hour every day. try to maintain a pace that will actually get her and/or you tired.

i would definitely talk to her about the problems though, i dont know her personality but sometimes if you phrase questions like, is there something i am doing or have done to cause you to ______ (gain weight for example) it might cause her to feel bad and motivate her to lose weight. but that depends on her personality, could make it worse as well.
what im saying is, pointing the finger at her through context might not resolve problems the most efficient way possible.