I absolutely agree with Salar and Aunty that your wife sounds depressed. And, realistically, maybe she should be. I actually think that being a middle-aged woman must be incredibly difficult because, in many cases, society values women for their looks and youth. It must suck to go from an item of desire to something else.

I've also noticed that many women lack a true passion for something. Many men do to but having something that you REALLY like to do provides motivation and something to look forward to.

You probably won't "win" on the outdoors thing unless you buy a crazy RV and coddle her. Even then, she probably won't like it. You should have been able to figure that out long ago. If this is a sudden change, then refer back to the depression issue.

The hardest part for you is surely mental if you really do feel like you are putting a ton of work for the family (chores, etc.) and she fails to acknowledge your contributions.

I really do wish you luck. The fact you've already reached this point isn't good but honest communication is really your only chance of having things get better. A chance is better than nothing.

-AP