Hey, we have our own Dr. Phil. lol

This thread could become epic.

My wife's passion is roller derby. Takes her away from the family, gives her some "girl time", and helps a lot with her self confidence, which I end up benefitting from as she shows me her new bruises. Lots of bigger girls skate roller derby, too.

Call her a wimp and she'll hip check you into the wall. She has a bumper sticker that says, "Roller Derby saved my life."

I think this thread has gotten away from Saundu.......

I was talking about yo mama who became unhappy when you came along.
Anyone who grew up with sisters knows when they are down in the dumps it's time to chow.

There's a lot of outside out there besides "rotten logs and hard ground"...not that I'd know anything about that, I think I must have read about it on the InterWebz or something.

Fish on...

Todd

maybe you have been a complete asshole to her and she is going somewhere else for sex?


NEVER rule that out in a situation like this...

What else would you expect?

I wouldn't take too much advice from the divorced crowd unless that's where you want to go.

99% of women do not like to fish, or camp, or get rained on, or get dirty and as for having to be in a good mood in order to have s*x....well duh! It is possible that it's a physical thing. My wife went through a spell until they got her blood pressure med correct. Now she talks too much. But it also could be she's as unhappy as you are.

Yeah they are all size queens over there.

Sounds like someone is due for another round with the horse.

yo mamma so dumb she thought Grape Nuts was an STD...


sorry, i had to....

back to your regularly scheduled programming...

You want my wife to do you instead of the horse? I'd keep looking. My wife is a babe who works out and would kick you in the nuts and then pull out her Ruger SP101. She loves that gun. I don't think she'd stick it where you like though. She doesn't like having to clean it.

Or it seems Sandu is missing from the thread... hopefully he is talking to his wife rather than pointlessly trading insults here.



It is probably too soon for an update but in a society of instant gratification I expect results dammit.

IMO, if you are seeking relationship advice on the Dark Side of a fishing forum the mirror is the first place to look for clues. I don't know how many divorces we've seen out here which mostly sound due to "I want to fish all of the time now why can't you just deal with it?"

You're getting worse. A bit early to be too drunk.

Saundu,

It typically comes down to one basic issue, lack of communication. Now that is just the tip of the iceberg in front of the SS Saundu marriage. Lack of communication has always been there even when you were dating so just talking will not fix it, now. Neither one has confidence in the other re communication and follow through and you do not have an agreed process of communication that works. Both of you have been cataloging the perceived slights of the other for many years now and now there is a massive wall of resentment between the two of you. That wall cannot be knocked down it has to be disassembled a piece at a time.
So you have to decide one thing and one thing only, if you love her? If you do then you have to decide that you will do anything you have to fix your issues that have prevented you from having a happy and fulfilling relationship. Then she has to do the same. For you that means find a counselor that you can work with a start peeling the layers of the onion named Saundu. Once you have made some progress the counselor will decide its time to add Mrs Saundu to the mix or not. It may not work it out it might but you will be a better person for it in the long run. .

I look at it this way. I made a promise to my self, my wife my friends and family in public that I would keep my word. No one forced me I came up with the idea all on my own. I compounded that choice when I decided to have kids. Nothing in life worth a dollar ever comes easy, everything I value has come at a price. People give up on themselves too easily in my opinion and it makes it easier to give up on others. They live a compromised life because of it.

A friend of mine confided in me late last year that he and his wife had only had sex with each other 12 times is 25 years of marriage. He was miserable, I asked him why not look in the mirror and find out why he allowed it to get that far. He dropped dead Feb 12th . Moral of the story is, life is short, shorter for some more than others. Every day spent unhappy is a bad investment because you can never get it back. Good luck on your journey.

Tom---Good advice.

12 times in 25 years??? Dear God!

I thought 12 times a month may not be enough to keep a marriage alive...unless some of that is spent outside bent over a rotten log (her not me) but I digress.

hehehehe

I think that is the smartest paragraph I have read here in quite some time.

I have been married 18 years today. Only 1 outdoor intercourse adventure that I can remember. My wife doesn't really like to camp but will because the kids want to, we have a 13 year old and a 9 year old. She doesn't like to fish but likes to go out in the boat while I fish. She likes shopping, I don't. We both support our kids in all their schooling and their sports endevors. We have had ups and downs through the years and have seen a counselor a time or 2, but in the end we have always talked through issues and worked them out together. Frankly, whether your marriage can be saved is up to BOTH of you. If you both want to save it, it can be done. However, as it takes two to make a marriage, it also usually takes two to destroy a marriage.