I'm just a rookie here, married for 5 years but been living together for 10. All I can really tell you a is bunch of stuff not to do (but I'm sure you have done them already.) All I really do know is that from a bunch of people I know, worked with, met at a bar, met at a fishing hole near you, etc, etc, etc etc................... an ex-wife is a pain in the fuuukkkkiiiinnnnggg aaaaaasszsssssss. My wife and I kind of made a pact to not be like our parents, divorced, and be more like our grandparents, together till death. Chores suck, so what. If you want this thing to work, you got to work (duh). Get yer [Bleeeeep!] together and go think about this on the river or the lake. The water will let yo know what to do but if it tells you to put your head under the water until you stop breathing (don't do that.)
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For some of us, a bad day of fishing is a bad day at work.
No one is allowed to sleep all day in our house. Or watch TV like a psycho hiding from problems...unless you are sick.
Lots of conversation in our house, lots of nice talk but also LOTS of loud argueing. We yell ALOT, we laugh ALOT, we talk ALOT. Very happily married to the best person I know in the world. Was in a 13 year nightmare- not so good - still shudder at the thought. I am brutally honest person which doesn't go over well w/ an extreme sensative. Seriously called that by a councelor - brutally honest. I am not into lazy bums who sleep or watch tv non-stop - really my pet peeve. GET UP or GET OUT! With that said I've spent the last 3 weeks locked in a spare bedroom watching cartoons - scooby doo & the space guys mostly - only thing that makes me quit thinking & everyone in my family has left me alone. Thankfully. Too stressed out, maybe depression - who knows. A person can only take as much as they can take. Business pressure & a stressful job suck.
My grandma would tell you - you made your bed so lay in it...that is what she would say.
Well you know life sucks & then you die. Kinda hard when you know you are worth more dead than alive. But whatever, some things keep me alive - like my family...without which..........
#759888 - 05/14/1210:11 PMRe: I think I want a divorce!
[Re: blue water pro]
parker
The Chosen One
Registered: 02/09/00
Posts: 11735
Loc: Margaritaville
You know who we are missing in on this conversation?
Sol.
He'd lay down the smack dab, no-[Bleeeeep!] response that would not only be 100% correct, but it would have been god-damn funny as hell, too.
The Parrot Chronicles......
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Hey BWP......while you're busy chasing whatever it is that you are chasing....money, recognition, self esteem, whatever.......you're likely to come out of your fukd up fog and find everyone else gone.
Sounds like you are SERIOUSLY misdirected in your priorities.
Might choose to ask yourself just wtf are you bringing to the table. (Hint: if it is primarily money......you lose)
Just a concerned citizen
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#759928 - 05/15/1208:00 AMRe: I think I want a divorce!
[Re: blue water pro]
big moby
Three Time Spawner
Registered: 08/28/08
Posts: 1994
Loc: Manfred Mann's Earth Band conc...
Originally Posted By: blue water pro
No one is allowed to sleep all day in our house. Or watch TV like a psycho hiding from problems...unless you are sick.
Lots of conversation in our house, lots of nice talk but also LOTS of loud argueing. We yell ALOT, we laugh ALOT, we talk ALOT. Very happily married to the best person I know in the world. Was in a 13 year nightmare- not so good - still shudder at the thought. I am brutally honest person which doesn't go over well w/ an extreme sensative. Seriously called that by a councelor - brutally honest. I am not into lazy bums who sleep or watch tv non-stop - really my pet peeve. GET UP or GET OUT! With that said I've spent the last 3 weeks locked in a spare bedroom watching cartoons - scooby doo & the space guys mostly - only thing that makes me quit thinking & everyone in my family has left me alone. Thankfully. Too stressed out, maybe depression - who knows. A person can only take as much as they can take. Business pressure & a stressful job suck.
My grandma would tell you - you made your bed so lay in it...that is what she would say.
I'm trying to figure this post out........... dude, cartoons? watch Gangland or something, that should cheer you up.....
#759936 - 05/15/1209:06 AMRe: I think I want a divorce!
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Illyrian
Repeat Spawner
Registered: 12/20/09
Posts: 1446
Loc: Spokane, wa
I don't understand how divorce lawyers make a living. We have so many diy marriage counselers about that divorce should never happen. Wellll maybe if you try to trade her in on two 20s too often.
Lack of sex with a women who was already a mother could be driven by her fears of getting pregnant..............again.......... and raising children while the husband is fishing..................again?
#759946 - 05/15/1210:58 AMRe: I think I want a divorce!
[Re: parker]
RowVsWade
River Nutrients
Registered: 11/08/06
Posts: 2573
Loc: Island Time
Originally Posted By: parker
You know who we are missing in on this conversation?
Sol.
He'd lay down the smack dab, no-[Bleeeeep!] response that would not only be 100% correct, but it would have been god-damn funny as hell, too.
The Parrot Chronicles......
No Chit! While I'd never met him in the flesh I thought about SOL after reading the OPs' first post. I'm not sure though if the advice he'd have given Saundu would have been of benefit to reconciling his relationship but it would of been phvcking hilarious and undoubtably spot on.
The Parrot Chronicles.
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If you don't like our prices bring your wife down and we'll dicker.
Hey, thanks for all of the responses...geez there were a lot. But it is a popular topic (marriage and level of satisfaction). As of today I am still married and need not continue to throw my wife under the bus without her being able to defend herself. As you all know I am a regular on this site and marital status in the coming months or years can be determined then.
Thanks for all of the serious responses and I will continue to sift through them and re read them.
I like the idea of "fighting for my marriage"..so at this time that is what I plan to do.
This is another reason why I love this site. Thanks
#760057 - 05/15/1206:20 PMRe: I think I want a divorce!
[Re: Dan S.]
RowVsWade
River Nutrients
Registered: 11/08/06
Posts: 2573
Loc: Island Time
Originally Posted By: Dan S.
There aren't a lot of things you can't talk your way through. People get in trouble when they clam up and resent in silence.
Best of luck..........
Very true Dan.
Also..regarding outdoor sex....maybe ease her into it.
Perhaps open the kitchen window and let her get a wiff of fresh air whilst driving the point of your love home. (mixed with olive oil and garlic...a sexual brushchetta if you please)
I'd stay away from Ahi tartare (and regardless of DanS' good advice, the clam too, not her clam but again I digress) before hand so as to not confuse the senses.
I wish you the best of luck. Mostly because your effort now will be a testament to your daughter about true love. It's not always easy but it's worth it.
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If you don't like our prices bring your wife down and we'll dicker.
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I don't understand how divorce lawyers make a living.
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