She had kids and didn’t want anymore. Sucks. We got along so well so rip me apart or give me advice please

Have you tried an Italian beef sammich?

Obviously she didn't think things were as rosie as you did.

I know it sounds callous but get a new one or 3.

JesusChristDan

DW - if you are steadfast on having your own kids, this is going to be best for you in the long run - even though it sucks ballz right now. Been there, done that. My only major advice to you is to NOT drink. You gotta stew in it sober for a while to come out of it a better man later IMO.

Fire up Tinder and go get you some strange...

if she had kids and didnt want any more, and you do, she wasnt right for you in the first place....

find someone who can be your best friend, shares the same interests, including the possibility of children, or whatever else you may want...

now if you are talking about advice on how to get back with her, id advise not doing so, because you still want children, and she doesnt, and if you try to force a chick to do something they dont want to, they will never let you forget it....

if you plan on doing an upgrade, dont do it from a bar... go fishing in a populated area, go to a game, a grocery store, hell maybe even church....

just stay the fvck away from bars....

Solid advice from everyone really. I’ve heard it takes a few months so I’ll try to be strong. Thanks dan for that lol made me laugh. And evo I give you a lot of crap but thanks man I appreciate you.

Bummer. Hang in there, and don't forget about your mistresses (fishing and baseball); you still got them!

Been in those same shoes many times.
Keep your head up and stay busy.
It is never easy, shoot me a PM if you need to talk to someone anytime.
Hang in there.

Pull up a chair and listen to a story Dwat….I married a woman with two kids. I was a good stepfather and we decided to have a child together, so we did. Nine months after he was born, she did a 180 and became a dictator....no more fishing, no more golf, no more anything....if I argued, she would threaten to leave to another state with him. So, I did nothing for five years. Finally couldn't take it anymore, so I divorced her.

She got my house, my boat, my car, $20K up front, $800/mo maintenance and $1,000 a month child support....and it was a shared custody settlement.

Just be thankful you didn't have a child with her....you never know what could have happened....especially if she wasn't all in on the idea.

Snake

No advice for the past, but plenty for the future...

If you have something you want, extract promises on the second date.

No promises, no third date.

That's how you avoid being where you are now.

Fish on...

Todd

As often as I disagree with both Todd and Evo on here I have to say they both gave you some pretty solid advice.

Stay true to what's important to you and realize that the pain of the breakup is temporary but being with the wrong woman is painful forever.

Renting someone's kids ain't nothing like having your own.
I'm sure you loved them and I get that but once you have your own kids it doesn't even compare.

Get confident and get busy............It's opening day.

Make a deposit at a sperm bank?

Find a surrogate wife.

You want advice? Don't date chicks with kids. WTF were you thinking? Find a woman that isn't carting around some other guy's F trophies.

Kids? F that! lol

Hope this helps.......

Okay I’ll be honest. Took a girl home from the bar rough hands and as tall as me. She knows everybody here so I might I have [Bleeeeep!] up

Lotsa' good advice. I disagree with Nick a bit about not drinking. I think self medicating with alcohol is OK, for maybe a month or two. It's just not sustainable as a lifestyle. Be depressed with the depression and then realize it isn't giving you what you want out of life. Figure out what will, and then go after that. Getting laid meanwhile doesn't hurt either.

I'm picturing the scene in River Runs Through It where the bros. see "Old Rawhide" and they say simultaneously- "We've met" and then look at each other...

Thats some solid advice too. you should follow it Brudda!

I am living proof that leaving a crazy bitch that isnt right for ya can turn out great. I wont dive into all the details but [Bleeeeep!] I have stories....

Being single again is seriously underrated ......
SF

Sorry I meant she knows everybody in town. So it will be awkward. So maybe getting back in the saddle isn’t the best advice

Rough hands.
HHHHmmmm.

Was her name Rosie?
Perhaps that would explain why the 2 of you know all the same people?

Your rented kids is the best quote I’ll take it to heart.

Dude I feel for ya................Honestly.
I've been the guy that dated the woman with someone's kids.
You will look back at this and laugh someday.
She did you a favor unless she's pregnant right now.
Better things are in your future.
You have total control of where you go from here.
Believe in yourself, be confident almost to the point of arrogance, get a puppy, and take it for a walk in a park or on the beach.
You will soon be training more than the puppy.


Oh yea and lets not forget that soon she will come sniffing back around cause it's a game for her crazy ass.
Be ready to say no.

On this episde of Ask The JackHammer:

Dear JackHammer,

It's been a week since I had a bad break up. She had kids and didn’t want anymore. Sucks. We got along so well, so rip me apart or give me advice please.

Sincerely,

Dwatkins

*****************************************************************************

Dwatkins,

Hate to say it, but Todd has some great advice. If you have something you want, extract promises on the second date. No promises, no third date. Never say "yes" to a "never" woman.

As for kids, making a kid is too easy and way over rated, IMO. The hard part about any kid is parenting them to a level where they can succeed in life without having you screwed them up in the process of them getting there. You don't need to make your own kids to be the best parent in the world and unfortunately, too many kids these days will never get the parent(s) or parenting they really need or deserve.

If making a child is not an option, I would recommend adoption or fostering a baby in the future.

Age is also something to consider. Since you have not had kids of your own, I'll just say that it's a lot of damn hard work and I wouldn't want to take on that job and responsibility past a certain age. Conversely, no one wants their 50 year old Father out coaching Little League t-ball.

As hard as it is for The JackHammer to say this, I'd pass on the local woman/talent, man hands or not. Sounds like a recipe to either get heavily mocked in your community, or probably get some STD.

Take a break for a bit, but when you're ready, don't be afraid to go online. Yeah, there's a fair chunk of really broken and psycho crazies out there, but get a good pair of SIMMS and don't be afraid to wade through the mess and make a few casts. You'll find many biters, but a good one out there will eventually nibble on the line.

Lastly, as a general JackHammer Rule of Thumb for ALL of you reading out there:

NEVER STICK YOUR DICK IN CRAZY.

Merg....book it. :>)

That was greezy........lol

I learned long ago to tell women what I want, and what I won't budge on...if that freaks them out, then good fuckin riddance.

Lack of ladies has not been a problem for me, so if it ain't broke, I ain't gonna fix it.

Fish on...

Todd

You should really listen to Parker.

Just about everything he said not to do above..........He has done........Twice.

Thanks for this. Puts my crap into perspective. And thanks to everyone’s advice you guys really are good people.

Every 18 year old Man in America should read Snakes post....the world would be a better place.

dem sum crazy biotches out there.

Todd is right. That's standard 2nd date protocol.

I also plant a certain seed very early on and work in the "yeah, I can kinda be a diick or arsehole sometimes, is that going to be a problem?". They never say no because I'm one charming, good looking SOB. THEN! THEN! When the relationship has run its course (it always does) and they call me an arsehole for real (because I am), I chuckle and remind them of our original deal. This works every time if your goal is to see a woman literally unzip her soul from her earthly skin suit and fly about in a proper unadulterated fit of pure rage. 43 years in and still undefeated. It's quite brilliant actually.

You guys can talk all you want about disclosing who you are and asking for promises on the second date.....remember this: Men marry women hoping they never change, women marry men hoping to change them.

Snake

Marriage? HAHAHAHA...that's adorable.

The point is that it's best to cover off on the big ticket items as soon as possible to avoid situations such as the one Dwat finds himself in.

For example, when Hank takes on a new lover, I'd imagine it's critically important for the union to decide who's the top and who's the bottom to avoid future cat fights and hearbreak.

How do you know he is sitting and typing???

Are you two in the same room?

My advice is this - don't ask for relationship advice here.

Pretty much.

DATE NIGHT

Just give it time. Take care of yourself. Have some fun!

Things weren’t normal for a year after my divorce.

And times are great now.

Go fishing. There are 4 billion women out there. Of course a lot of them are old,ugly ,crazy,etc. et al.

If nothing else, pay attention ta this bit o advice!!

Good luck...

Women come and go but delicious 40oz bottles of Malt Liquor will always be there for you. MALT LIQUOR!

How long are you gonna ride this tired gimmick? You should go hang out with Jonas.

Go bang a bunch of em.... Before long you will have your own kid/kid's....
You may have to pay child support, but you won't have to move the broad in...

Whoa. A Timber sighting!

They let him out finally?

The Lucky Prince


Once upon a time a Prince asked a beautiful Princess, “ Will you marry me ? “.

The Princess said no, and the handsome Prince lived happily ever after.

And the Prince rode motorcycles

And fvcked skinny big titted broads

And hunted and fished whenever the fvck he wanted

And went to naked bars and dated women half his age

And drank whiskey and malt liquor and Captain Morgan

And snorted cocaine off of strippers asses

And ate lots of pussy and ass fvcked cheerleaders

And never had to listen to any bitching at home

And never paid any child support or alimony

And kept his house and his guns

And never got cheated on while he was at work

And all his friends and family thought he was cool as hell

And he has tons of money in the bank

And he leaves the toilet seat up

The End

Been a long fuking time coming Bart.

You forgot the part where he died happily of AIDS.

Where the hell you been bro???

Livin' the dream ...

I did go out and buy a fishing license though. First one since 2004.

Probably should of bought a fish.

Dang, somebody else lived through the same as me. The part of crazy coming back is so true.

I'd just stick with the pup and forget kids if I had a do over.