Bad break up itís been a week

Posted by: dwatkins

Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 12:25 PM

She had kids and didnít want anymore. Sucks. We got along so well so rip me apart or give me advice please
Posted by: Dan S.

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 12:58 PM

Have you tried an Italian beef sammich?

smile
Posted by: WDFW X 1 = 0

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 01:02 PM

Obviously she didn't think things were as rosie as you did.

I know it sounds callous but get a new one or 3.



Posted by: NickD90

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 01:08 PM

JesusChristDan

DW - if you are steadfast on having your own kids, this is going to be best for you in the long run - even though it sucks ballz right now. Been there, done that. My only major advice to you is to NOT drink. You gotta stew in it sober for a while to come out of it a better man later IMO.

Fire up Tinder and go get you some strange...
Posted by: Evo

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 01:13 PM

if she had kids and didnt want any more, and you do, she wasnt right for you in the first place....

find someone who can be your best friend, shares the same interests, including the possibility of children, or whatever else you may want...

now if you are talking about advice on how to get back with her, id advise not doing so, because you still want children, and she doesnt, and if you try to force a chick to do something they dont want to, they will never let you forget it....

if you plan on doing an upgrade, dont do it from a bar... go fishing in a populated area, go to a game, a grocery store, hell maybe even church....

just stay the fvck away from bars....
Posted by: dwatkins

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 01:25 PM

Solid advice from everyone really. Iíve heard it takes a few months so Iíll try to be strong. Thanks dan for that lol made me laugh. And evo I give you a lot of crap but thanks man I appreciate you.
Posted by: FleaFlickr02

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 01:30 PM

Bummer. Hang in there, and don't forget about your mistresses (fishing and baseball); you still got them!
Posted by: War-Paint

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 01:30 PM

Been in those same shoes many times.
Keep your head up and stay busy.
It is never easy, shoot me a PM if you need to talk to someone anytime.
Hang in there.
Posted by: Snake Pliskin

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 02:02 PM

Pull up a chair and listen to a story DwatÖ.I married a woman with two kids. I was a good stepfather and we decided to have a child together, so we did. Nine months after he was born, she did a 180 and became a dictator....no more fishing, no more golf, no more anything....if I argued, she would threaten to leave to another state with him. So, I did nothing for five years. Finally couldn't take it anymore, so I divorced her.

She got my house, my boat, my car, $20K up front, $800/mo maintenance and $1,000 a month child support....and it was a shared custody settlement.

Just be thankful you didn't have a child with her....you never know what could have happened....especially if she wasn't all in on the idea.

Snake
Posted by: Hankster

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 02:13 PM

Lotsa fish in the ocean and your gear ain't rusty.

Perk up and go fishin' again.
Posted by: Todd

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 02:16 PM

No advice for the past, but plenty for the future...

If you have something you want, extract promises on the second date.

No promises, no third date.

That's how you avoid being where you are now.

Fish on...

Todd
Posted by: OceanSun

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 02:21 PM

As often as I disagree with both Todd and Evo on here I have to say they both gave you some pretty solid advice.

Stay true to what's important to you and realize that the pain of the breakup is temporary but being with the wrong woman is painful forever.
Posted by: WDFW X 1 = 0

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 03:14 PM

Renting someone's kids ain't nothing like having your own.
I'm sure you loved them and I get that but once you have your own kids it doesn't even compare.

Get confident and get busy............It's opening day.


Posted by: Steelheadman

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 06:58 PM

Make a deposit at a sperm bank?
Posted by: Steelheadman

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 06:59 PM

Find a surrogate wife.
Posted by: LocalTalent

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 07:27 PM

You want advice? Don't date chicks with kids. WTF were you thinking? Find a woman that isn't carting around some other guy's F trophies.
Posted by: fish4brains

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 09:06 PM

Kids? F that! lol
Posted by: Sol Duc

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/13/18 09:47 PM

Hope this helps.......


Posted by: dwatkins

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 12:04 AM

Okay Iíll be honest. Took a girl home from the bar rough hands and as tall as me. She knows everybody here so I might I have [Bleeeeep!] up
Posted by: Hankster

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 08:25 AM

Originally Posted By: dwatkins
Okay Iíll be honest. Took a girl home from the bar rough hands and as tall as me. She knows everybody here so I might I have [Bleeeeep!] up

Do you think she told Todd about it when she got home?

smile
Posted by: Myassisdragon

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 08:46 AM

Originally Posted By: dwatkins
Okay Iíll be honest. Took a girl home from the bar rough hands and as tall as me. She knows everybody here so I might I have [Bleeeeep!] up


Does everyone here know of her ? Might be a relevant question to ask early in this dating episode...
Posted by: Salmo g.

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 09:03 AM

Lotsa' good advice. I disagree with Nick a bit about not drinking. I think self medicating with alcohol is OK, for maybe a month or two. It's just not sustainable as a lifestyle. Be depressed with the depression and then realize it isn't giving you what you want out of life. Figure out what will, and then go after that. Getting laid meanwhile doesn't hurt either.
Posted by: Capt. Quint

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 09:07 AM

Originally Posted By: dwatkins
Okay Iíll be honest. Took a girl home from the bar rough hands and as tall as me. She knows everybody here so I might I have [Bleeeeep!] up


I'm picturing the scene in River Runs Through It where the bros. see "Old Rawhide" and they say simultaneously- "We've met" and then look at each other...
Posted by: Sky-Guy

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 09:11 AM

Originally Posted By: NickD90
JesusChristDan



Fire up Tinder and go get you some strange...



Thats some solid advice too. you should follow it Brudda! grin

I am living proof that leaving a crazy bitch that isnt right for ya can turn out great. I wont dive into all the details but [Bleeeeep!] I have stories....
Posted by: stonefish

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 09:18 AM

Being single again is seriously underrated ......
SF
Posted by: dwatkins

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 09:26 AM

Sorry I meant she knows everybody in town. So it will be awkward. So maybe getting back in the saddle isnít the best advice
Posted by: Hankster

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 09:41 AM

Originally Posted By: dwatkins
Sorry I meant she knows everybody in town. So it will be awkward. So maybe getting back in the saddle isnít the best advice

Getting back in the saddle is excellent advice.

Choose your saddle more wisely next time. Don't get one with a burr under it.
Posted by: WDFW X 1 = 0

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 10:20 AM

Rough hands.
HHHHmmmm.

Was her name Rosie?
Perhaps that would explain why the 2 of you know all the same people?
Posted by: dwatkins

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 10:37 AM

Originally Posted By: WDFW X 1 = 0
Rough hands.
HHHHmmmm.

Was her name Rosie?
Perhaps that would explain why the 2 of you know all the same people?


Your rented kids is the best quote Iíll take it to heart.
Posted by: WDFW X 1 = 0

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 12:09 PM

Dude I feel for ya................Honestly.
I've been the guy that dated the woman with someone's kids.
You will look back at this and laugh someday.
She did you a favor unless she's pregnant right now.
Better things are in your future.
You have total control of where you go from here.
Believe in yourself, be confident almost to the point of arrogance, get a puppy, and take it for a walk in a park or on the beach.
You will soon be training more than the puppy.


Oh yea and lets not forget that soon she will come sniffing back around cause it's a game for her crazy ass.
Be ready to say no.

Posted by: elparquito

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 12:59 PM

On this episde of Ask The JackHammer:

Dear JackHammer,

It's been a week since I had a bad break up. She had kids and didnít want anymore. Sucks. We got along so well, so rip me apart or give me advice please.

Sincerely,

Dwatkins

*****************************************************************************

Dwatkins,

Hate to say it, but Todd has some great advice. If you have something you want, extract promises on the second date. No promises, no third date. Never say "yes" to a "never" woman.

As for kids, making a kid is too easy and way over rated, IMO. The hard part about any kid is parenting them to a level where they can succeed in life without having you screwed them up in the process of them getting there. You don't need to make your own kids to be the best parent in the world and unfortunately, too many kids these days will never get the parent(s) or parenting they really need or deserve.

If making a child is not an option, I would recommend adoption or fostering a baby in the future.

Age is also something to consider. Since you have not had kids of your own, I'll just say that it's a lot of damn hard work and I wouldn't want to take on that job and responsibility past a certain age. Conversely, no one wants their 50 year old Father out coaching Little League t-ball.

As hard as it is for The JackHammer to say this, I'd pass on the local woman/talent, man hands or not. Sounds like a recipe to either get heavily mocked in your community, or probably get some STD.

Take a break for a bit, but when you're ready, don't be afraid to go online. Yeah, there's a fair chunk of really broken and psycho crazies out there, but get a good pair of SIMMS and don't be afraid to wade through the mess and make a few casts. You'll find many biters, but a good one out there will eventually nibble on the line.

Lastly, as a general JackHammer Rule of Thumb for ALL of you reading out there:

NEVER STICK YOUR DICK IN CRAZY.

Posted by: Hankster

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 01:34 PM

Extract promises on the 2nd date? That musta been one helluva 1st date.

"Hey, baby, I really dig ya and I demand you have my babies or there won't be a 3rd date".

LOL

Any normal woman, one that wasn't a sweathog a year away from being too old to have babies, would grab her purse and GTFO of there. That 2nd date would be short and not too sweet.
Posted by: Sol Duc

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 01:48 PM

Originally Posted By: dwatkins
Okay Iíll be honest. Took a girl home from the bar rough hands and as tall as me. She knows everybody here so I might I have [Bleeeeep!] up

Merg....book it. :>)
Posted by: Sol Duc

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 01:50 PM

Originally Posted By: Hankster
Originally Posted By: dwatkins
Okay Iíll be honest. Took a girl home from the bar rough hands and as tall as me. She knows everybody here so I might I have [Bleeeeep!] up

Do you think she told Todd about it when she got home?

smile

That was greezy........lol
Posted by: Todd

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 01:58 PM

I learned long ago to tell women what I want, and what I won't budge on...if that freaks them out, then good fuckin riddance.

Lack of ladies has not been a problem for me, so if it ain't broke, I ain't gonna fix it.

Fish on...

Todd
Posted by: WDFW X 1 = 0

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 02:13 PM

You should really listen to Parker.

Just about everything he said not to do above..........He has done........Twice.
Posted by: dwatkins

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 02:26 PM

Originally Posted By: Snake Pliskin
Pull up a chair and listen to a story DwatÖ.I married a woman with two kids. I was a good stepfather and we decided to have a child together, so we did. Nine months after he was born, she did a 180 and became a dictator....no more fishing, no more golf, no more anything....if I argued, she would threaten to leave to another state with him. So, I did nothing for five years. Finally couldn't take it anymore, so I divorced her.

She got my house, my boat, my car, $20K up front, $800/mo maintenance and $1,000 a month child support....and it was a shared custody settlement.

Just be thankful you didn't have a child with her....you never know what could have happened....especially if she wasn't all in on the idea.

Snake



Thanks for this. Puts my crap into perspective. And thanks to everyoneís advice you guys really are good people.
Posted by: Sol Duc

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 02:36 PM

Originally Posted By: dwatkins
Originally Posted By: Snake Pliskin
Pull up a chair and listen to a story DwatÖ.I married a woman with two kids. I was a good stepfather and we decided to have a child together, so we did. Nine months after he was born, she did a 180 and became a dictator....no more fishing, no more golf, no more anything....if I argued, she would threaten to leave to another state with him. So, I did nothing for five years. Finally couldn't take it anymore, so I divorced her.

She got my house, my boat, my car, $20K up front, $800/mo maintenance and $1,000 a month child support....and it was a shared custody settlement.

Just be thankful you didn't have a child with her....you never know what could have happened....especially if she wasn't all in on the idea.

Snake



Thanks for this. Puts my crap into perspective. And thanks to everyoneís advice you guys really are good people.

Every 18 year old Man in America should read Snakes post....the world would be a better place.
Posted by: Myassisdragon

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 03:15 PM

Originally Posted By: Sol Duc
Originally Posted By: dwatkins
Originally Posted By: Snake Pliskin
Pull up a chair and listen to a story DwatÖ.I married a woman with two kids. I was a good stepfather and we decided to have a child together, so we did. Nine months after he was born, she did a 180 and became a dictator....no more fishing, no more golf, no more anything....if I argued, she would threaten to leave to another state with him. So, I did nothing for five years. Finally couldn't take it anymore, so I divorced her.

She got my house, my boat, my car, $20K up front, $800/mo maintenance and $1,000 a month child support....and it was a shared custody settlement.

Just be thankful you didn't have a child with her....you never know what could have happened....especially if she wasn't all in on the idea.

Snake



Thanks for this. Puts my crap into perspective. And thanks to everyoneís advice you guys really are good people.

Every 18 year old Man in America should read Snakes post....the world would be a better place.


👍

Make that all males 18 to 65, but have the mandatory reading of the Snakeís posting follow the Jack hammerís advice notice !

Theorem, Proof, Law etc etc.....
Posted by: Sol Duc

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 04:02 PM

dem sum crazy biotches out there.
Posted by: NickD90

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/14/18 09:48 PM

Todd is right. That's standard 2nd date protocol.

I also plant a certain seed very early on and work in the "yeah, I can kinda be a diick or arsehole sometimes, is that going to be a problem?". They never say no because I'm one charming, good looking SOB. THEN! THEN! When the relationship has run its course (it always does) and they call me an arsehole for real (because I am), I chuckle and remind them of our original deal. This works every time if your goal is to see a woman literally unzip her soul from her earthly skin suit and fly about in a proper unadulterated fit of pure rage. 43 years in and still undefeated. It's quite brilliant actually.
Posted by: Hankster

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/15/18 07:47 AM

Originally Posted By: Todd
I learned long ago to tell women what I want, and what I won't budge on...if that freaks them out, then good fuckin riddance.

Lack of ladies has not been a problem for me, so if it ain't broke, I ain't gonna fix it.


You reek of toxic masculinity and patriarchy.

Not to mention an ego inflated to the point of bursting.

Turn in your progressive credentials and report your abhorrent behavior to your local feminist movement immediately for retraining and other punishment.
Posted by: Snake Pliskin

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/15/18 07:50 AM

You guys can talk all you want about disclosing who you are and asking for promises on the second date.....remember this: Men marry women hoping they never change, women marry men hoping to change them.

Snake
Posted by: Hankster

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/15/18 08:35 AM

Originally Posted By: Snake Pliskin
remember this: Men marry women hoping they never change, women marry men hoping to change them.

And they're pretty devious in how they go about it too.

You patiently explain to them their feet are shorter so they can stand closer to the stove. They look at you like your tongue is forked and the next thing you know they have 30 pairs of new shoes in the closet.

That puts a crimper on buying the new reel you had your eyes on.
Posted by: NickD90

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/15/18 08:39 AM

Marriage? HAHAHAHA...that's adorable.

The point is that it's best to cover off on the big ticket items as soon as possible to avoid situations such as the one Dwat finds himself in.

For example, when Hank takes on a new lover, I'd imagine it's critically important for the union to decide who's the top and who's the bottom to avoid future cat fights and hearbreak.
Posted by: Hankster

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/15/18 08:55 AM

Huh

I wonder how Nicky-poo could sit down.and write that with a cock up his ass.
Posted by: NickD90

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/15/18 09:02 AM

rofl
Posted by: WDFW X 1 = 0

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/15/18 09:15 AM

How do you know he is sitting and typing???

Are you two in the same room?
Posted by: Dan S.

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/15/18 09:18 AM

My advice is this - don't ask for relationship advice here.
Posted by: NickD90

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/15/18 10:43 AM

Pretty much.
Posted by: fish4brains

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/15/18 10:02 PM

DATE NIGHT

Posted by: Jason Beezuz

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/17/18 01:46 PM

Just give it time. Take care of yourself. Have some fun!

Things werenít normal for a year after my divorce.
Posted by: Jason Beezuz

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/17/18 01:46 PM

And times are great now.
Posted by: avidangler

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/18/18 03:41 PM

Go fishing. There are 4 billion women out there. Of course a lot of them are old,ugly ,crazy,etc. et al.
Posted by: Bucket/Good Sport

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/18/18 04:48 PM

Originally Posted By: parker
On this episde of Ask The JackHammer:

Dear JackHammer,

Lastly, as a general JackHammer Rule of Thumb for ALL of you reading out there:

NEVER STICK YOUR DICK IN CRAZY.



If nothing else, pay attention ta this bit o advice!!
Posted by: avidangler

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/18/18 10:50 PM

Originally Posted By: Bucket/Good Sport
Originally Posted By: parker
On this episde of Ask The JackHammer:

Dear JackHammer,

Lastly, as a general JackHammer Rule of Thumb for ALL of you reading out there:

NEVER STICK YOUR DICK IN CRAZY.



If nothing else, pay attention ta this bit o advice!!


Good luck...
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/21/18 08:14 AM

Women come and go but delicious 40oz bottles of Malt Liquor will always be there for you. MALT LIQUOR!
Posted by: avidangler

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 06/21/18 08:49 AM

Originally Posted By: steeleworldwide
Women come and go but delicious 40oz bottles of Malt Liquor will always be there for you. MALT LIQUOR!


How long are you gonna ride this tired gimmick? You should go hang out with Jonas.
Posted by: Timber

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 07/09/18 09:08 AM

Go bang a bunch of em.... Before long you will have your own kid/kid's....
You may have to pay child support, but you won't have to move the broad in... rofl
Posted by: elparquito

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 07/09/18 12:03 PM

Whoa. A Timber sighting!
Posted by: WDFW X 1 = 0

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 07/16/18 09:05 AM

They let him out finally?
Posted by: Black Bart

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 07/27/18 08:35 AM

The Lucky Prince


Once upon a time a Prince asked a beautiful Princess, ď Will you marry me ? ď.

The Princess said no, and the handsome Prince lived happily ever after.

And the Prince rode motorcycles

And fvcked skinny big titted broads

And hunted and fished whenever the fvck he wanted

And went to naked bars and dated women half his age

And drank whiskey and malt liquor and Captain Morgan

And snorted cocaine off of strippers asses

And ate lots of pussy and ass fvcked cheerleaders

And never had to listen to any bitching at home

And never paid any child support or alimony

And kept his house and his guns

And never got cheated on while he was at work

And all his friends and family thought he was cool as hell

And he has tons of money in the bank

And he leaves the toilet seat up

The End
Posted by: WDFW X 1 = 0

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 07/27/18 10:04 AM

Been a long fuking time coming Bart.

You forgot the part where he died happily of AIDS.

Where the hell you been bro???
Posted by: Black Bart

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 07/27/18 12:36 PM

Livin' the dream ...

I did go out and buy a fishing license though. First one since 2004.
Posted by: WDFW X 1 = 0

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 07/27/18 01:40 PM

Probably should of bought a fish.
Posted by: Ward

Re: Bad break up itís been a week - 07/29/18 08:54 AM

Originally Posted By: WDFW X 1 = 0
Dude I feel for ya................Honestly.
I've been the guy that dated the woman with someone's kids.
You will look back at this and laugh someday.
She did you a favor unless she's pregnant right now.
Better things are in your future.
You have total control of where you go from here.
Believe in yourself, be confident almost to the point of arrogance, get a puppy, and take it for a walk in a park or on the beach.
You will soon be training more than the puppy.


Oh yea and lets not forget that soon she will come sniffing back around cause it's a game for her crazy ass.
Be ready to say no.



Dang, somebody else lived through the same as me. The part of crazy coming back is so true.

I'd just stick with the pup and forget kids if I had a do over.