Thanks Slabby, you helped me put things in perspective this am. Yeah, do wonder what I'm chasing -just keep on a chasing. My marriage is ROCK solid though...no question about that. Problem was resolved as of 4:35pm today...lawyer says we have one hella of a lawsuit. I said NO - just want it done, over & hope to never EVER speak with a lawyer again as long as I live. REALLY! Sad fact, didn't even know the real enemy.

Wish you the best of luck Saundu! Matters of the heart can be complicated. Gotta ask yourself - when the chips are down, when you are down & out - who will be there for ya - not gonna find it in romance - pretty much can guarantee you that.

So this is what got me thru the last month or so - Gotta Love Scooby Doo!!!!!!

and this

and this

Very Good News, BWP!!

I didn't get the impression you were "throwing her under the bus" or that you were unnecessarily harsh. I am sure she would have negative comments also if we were her audience. I admire your loyalty though and applaud your choice to fight- it is never too late to try and the potential rewards are huge.



Aunty thinks we are a bunch of predisposed sexists when actually the majority of the advice offered was exactly opposite.



As for your quote- I couldn't have said it better myself; PP rocks.


Good luck to you Sandu.

Now we can all form a circle and throw up.

Productive criticism?



Not.

Nope. Just criticism.
Productive would be if I posted links to advice columnists.

Throwing up is what you seem to do here daily as the resident cynic.





You and KK should sponsor a blood letting party.

Or we could sit in a circle and sing. Maybe even sign a Promise Keepers pledge or two. Later on we could take turns confessing to stuff.

A marriage is always a work in progress. We'll have been married for 40 years. The final basic question to ask yourself is whether you are better with your wife or better without her. I've probably asked myself that question at least once a year, if not more often, since we've been together. Our last anniversary I asked my wife why she's stuck it out with me and she said because I can still make her laugh. I didn't ask if it was at me or with me.

Chuck, that's an awesome yardstick to use, and I agree. I've asked friends from time to time, "When was the last time you laughed until it hurt?"
Me bride and I hug and laugh uncontrolably semi-regularly...usually over some smart arse comment one to the other. I love it.