someday you will look back at all this and say, wtf was i stressing about. enjoy your kids while you still can. someday they won't have time for you.too busy with there friends and all the other shiat.

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I think my DOG is smarter then that

That is a messed up message she is sending. I don't see it as a self-esteem issue as much as I see it as the beloved are replaceable message, yikes, dare I say disposable? That is a piss pore thing to teach.

Luckily, they have 2 parents. You can counter that by letting them know your always there for them, & letting them know you will always love their mom (justified to yourself by the fact that she gave you those kids!). And, this you won't like, taking in that dog, (& other pets your kids have bonded with) if she tires of it. Labradoodle? Well at least it is half lab, can't be that bad.

Just my opinion.

Anyone think Sol will be spending much time in a doublewide home or female for that matter. Some people just arn't built to settle for less than what they want. Dude will do whatever it takes to come out better in the end. Unless he is like my old man and refuses to bite his tung or admit that he could be wrong. My Moms lawyer just loves that about him to the tune of almost 6 figures now and counting. Don't underestamate the value of getting it done ASAP. The lawyers don't mind loosing the fights if it makes for a longer war. Keep cool and get back to your way of life bud.

Being somewhat familiar with the female mindset, I'd have to say Sol's goal of being rid of STBEW isn't going to happen quite the way he envisions, unless SHE is sick and tired of dealing with HIM and wants to avoid contact. As long as there are two kids and shared custody, she can interject herself into his life for many more years. Up to and including making him take one or both daughters if they become unruly teenage brats. (especially if she gets another man on the hook!) If she can dispose of pets that easily, it isn't just a bad message being sent to the girls, it's a real possibility that they will become disposable too.

Be the ROCK for those girls Tim!

Cat, Aunty. A cat.

He's way cool. He's way friendly, not skittish, loves the kids, is tolerant, and is well behaved.

He comes and goes as he pleases. He uses the magnetic cat door. He doesn't chew on my house, nor does he pee/crap in my house.

I make sure he's got some dry food in his bowl and some water.

He sleeps on the covers, between my feet every night.

He'd even like you.

I'm failing to see the issue or problem with owning this cat.

I've owned *other* cats that are probably what you hate about cats. Seems that about 1 in a 100 are good cats. The rest are just flakes.

Between my parents and myself, there are 3 cats that fall in the "very cool range". The other half-million have been just cats.

The only time it's "weird" for a guy to own a cat is if he's single.

Then it's like having potpourri on your coffee table next to a copy of 'Redbook.'

If he's married with kids then it's just part of the territory, like a bathroom cabinet filled with tampons and hair junk.

In my defense, I didn't own a cat until I got married. It was the wife's doing.

So if a maniac on drugs kicks in your door Parker, the cat's going to do what? Meow and hiss?

My dog will bark and apply 100 lbs of pissed off to the intruder, giving us time to get to a weapon. The rest of the time, she is docile and pleasant to be around. She is one of 4 we've had over the years and all were members of the family till old age.

I would never raise kids without giving them a dog. The benefits far outweigh the negatives. Cats teach kids to read Redbook and have potpourri around the house I guess.

I hate cats. Cats can make a kid turn gay according to the above. Just another reason to hate cats.

I have a daughter, so I'm not too concerned.

I'm single, I own a cat, I hate my cat, my cat hates me, my cat hates my dogs, my dogs hate my cat but are scared of her...she's a tough ass mouse killin' POS with sharp claws and a very bad attitude, when she croaks I'll get another cat out of a dumpster somwhere and the cycle will repeat itself. When you live on a farm you have to have a cat. It's just the way it is.

Sorry about your wood gettin' chewed up by a dog Sol.

stam

It's the same perception that if you own a jacked up 4by4X you're badass....somethings are just not what they seem.

My guess would be that alot of cat owners/lovers are a bit tougher than many of the above mentioned.

I would without doubt kill 85 percent of the people out there before I would allow harm to come to my dog, the percentage goes down to 50% for the cat....and I hate the cat.

stam

p.s. sorry Dan, I stole your analogy.

Yeah sure, bring up the "Barn Cat Exemption."

I think we were talking about some fruit keeping Mr. Bigglesworth on a satin pillow next to his autographed picture of Celine Dion, not some semi-feral fleabag.

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Semi-feral..??

My feelings exactly.

Who needs a cat? My dog kills mice, voles, squirrels, and CATS! Out here, cats are feral and we refer to them as puppy treats.

We have a semi-feral cat that lives outside. It won't even set foot in the house, runs off when I come near it but let's Mrs. Chuck E comb it. She feeds the birds and we had a critter of some sort burrowing under the compost pile until the cat showed up. Now we have a mini eco-system -she feeds the birds, the cat eats the birds and other critters. We have a sharp shinned hawk that comes thru and eats birds also. I just wish the cat would get tough enough to chase off the raccoons that come thru about three times a week. I didn't have cats in the house until I met my wife so I'm invoking the 'barn cat exemption' also.

Sol, think "BIG PICTURE". It is only money in the end and you know how to make plenty more of that. The bonus is you don't have to put up with your ex all the time. You will always have an ex-wife as long as you are both still alive so get use to it. Love your kids and be civil with your soon to be ex-wife for the sake of your kids and your own mental health. Good luck finding some one to put up with your $h!t in the future for any length of time but hey who knows there might be a double-wide, jacked-up 4 wheel driving, tobacco chewing cowboy chasing old lady you just haven't found yet. Keep up the hunt.

Definition of a "good cat"; barn cat, dead cat, some one else's cat (and then maybe). Kinda like ex's!!

I'm just glad that someone finds my stuff worth repeating.