"My interpetation of biblical doctrine of spousal order is the husband being in charge to make the decisions that no one wants to make,"

If you consider the decisions that no one wants to make being the big decisions and the wife makes the smaller ones then this is inline with what Bill Engvall says about his marriage - He and his wife agreed that she would make the little decisions and he would make the big ones and that so far he hasn't had to make a big decision.
That's the way it's been in our house for 35 years. I didn't realize we had such a traditional biblical marriage.