I've heard a few guys tell of the same as I've experienced - my wife to be fished quite often with me when we were going together, even on rainy days; and often all day! After we got married it quickly became the rare day she would go fishing, and usually on sunny days for a half day. I guess it's kind of common to have to start to beg for 'things', like going fishing , after we've been married for awhile? The norm or not? (The answers are going to either make a lot of guys feel better; or maybe worse, but I doubt that ).

Edit: BTW, for you guys thinking about getting married, scientists have discovered a food substance that strongly reduces the female sex drive - it's called wedding cake.

[ 04-17-2001: Message edited by: RT ]

lol RT it isnt that she has lost interest
Its a condition called Sperm poisoning --- a few friends and I couldnt figure out what happended after that fatal day and it seemed it got worse ---the only thing we could summon up and gather evidence on a regular basis was -well so she didnt go left wing on ya --its just Sperm Poisoning

by the way nice to see ya on board --enjoy your writings and humor ---keep up the good work and keep that reel oiled

Will

psssst been married 16 yrs now so have had alot of research

My wife used to wake me up at 3am to go fishing when I would try to sleep a little longer after shutting the alarm clock off before we were married.Now if I suggest getting up early to go she kind of wrinkles her nose but reluctantly does it anyway.Actually my wife has shown more interest in fishing the last couple of years and rides in the front of my driftboat as long as it's supposed to be a nice day out.My wife is very understanding about my all day driftboat trips most of the time. The first time I took her down the river in my boat she caught a 32lb springer and now thinks she is an expert.

[ 04-17-2001: Message edited by: Sand Shrimp ]

I figure it will be the other way around for me. When Bob and I get married is he going to slak off (sleep seems to be an important thing to him now with so few days off???) and quit taking me fishing? I better have it written into the vows!

Well I have been hiched for 20 years. Wife was not in to fishing. I broke it to her very slowly. I fish and there is not much you can do to stop me. Well now she knows it makes me happy so there is no problem. God I love my Wife. She will come along when the sun is out. But most of the time it is " why don't you just go with Zak my son" see you later dear. I work nites so I can fish all day. I must say I love strong coffee.

Kalamabama,

I work from 6pm to 2am and can fish when ever I want. Its nice to have that flexability but it does catch up with ya. Ive gone out five days in a row with 3hours of sleep each night I end up almost dead and have to hibernate for two straight days. But when the fish are in I can make that sacrifice.

I live with my girlfriend and she dosent have a problem letting me go fishin whenever I want. When I start feeling guilty is when I slow down she never tells me its to much.

Fishgal-
I dont think you'll have a problem finding someone to take you fishing if Bob ever slacks off...I think pretty much everyone on this board would quickly offer up a day on the river with you.

Fishing is a very touchy subject with my wife. She blames her dad for "abandoning" her mom and fishing too much. Mom used to fish with him (quit about ten years ago). They fished as a family when they were growing up.

She feels that a husband should stay home and take care of the family first. I agree that the first priority should be family. However she accepts my fishing. I just don't go very often. She prefers that I take my son when I go. I enjoy and look forward to fishing with my boy. We'll be hitting the river often in June. The father/son bonding thing is good.

I have a great under standing with my wife when it comes to fishin.I've always have been
able to just get up and go,when I Met my wife
I told her flat out that I have no plans on slowin down my fishin time period.She was and is still cool with it.As long as I don't
break plans with her or the family.She delt with it for five years before we finally got
married last fall.She likes to fish her self
so we've takin a charter trip out of westport
once a year for the past six years and I also
take her to bouy ten for a day or so of fishin.I took the family to Carson last week end for Easter and a little fishin and it was
great.All though I'm married with two little
girlies and my wife,I still basically fish when I want it's just more well planned out,
that's all.The moral to the story is get it straightened out before you committ.By the way, After getting married last Sept 23rd I was gone fishin and huntin for four weekend's
in a row.I have a wonderfull wife and I'am
greatfull.Good luck,
STRIKE ZONE

My wife is kewl about my addiction and she part takes in it with me.

Fishgal rockin concert last week, eh.

My wife hates fishing. She rarely complains when my obsession becomes excessive. When she does it is usually to the affect that we do not spend enough time together so then I threaten to make her go with me then and it usually ends there.

Like Rich G., I usually slow down when I start to feel guilty too.

[ 04-18-2001: Message edited by: MasterBaiter ]

My wife is really cool when it comes to fishing. She loves to fish with me, but really doesn't care for the rain, early mornings, long time inbetween bites, and being trapped in a drift boat.

A nice walk-in trip on the Quinault Reservation in December and a float trip with Saukit2em down the Snohomish for Humpies this October will keep her happy for the year. Toss in a few trips to the Sauk River Steelhead Ranch, and it's a done deal.

Good weather and lots of fish-on action are the keys to getting your wife to actually like fishing.

Normally, I split my weekends between fishing and my family. One day for the fish, and the other day for my wife.

Guess I'm the lucky one.I find it very hard to get away and go fishing with out her.One time a friend and I were going to Sewart to fish for buts,when I told her,she asked when we were going?This was after work on thursday.Told her we were going after work friday.She started packing to go fishing!I had to tell her she was not invited,she proceeded to tell me that if she can't fish I can't fish.So needless to say she got to go! Even when I have to work,she will get up early,grab her rigs,the dogs, and her 44. hike 2 miles into the little su,in the dark, just to be at her favorite silver hole before sunrise. The only time I can fish without her is when we fish all day and half the night,she will get tired and take a nap,that leaves me the rest of the night(king season only),But I will tell you, I would not have it anyother way One more thing I just got to say.You guys in the lower 48 get to fish year round,well it's our time to shine,summer is on it's way up here!!!!YESSSSS....FISH ON!!

My wife is pretty cool about my addiction. She knows that I'm going whenever I get a chance and that it makes me happy. I've tried to talk her into going, but she just isn't up for the 3:00AM Sat. mornings. She isn't really up for the "gross" stuff involved either. I don't think that she could bait up a sandshrimp if her life depended on it and you should see her freak out if I happen to bring home a fish (don't drip on the carpet!, that thing stinks!, take your boots off before you come in! ).

Another thing that helps is that I don't spend all my free time fishing. I usually spend at least one day of the weekend at home with her (no kids yet ).

If a woman pitches me some flack about going fishing I'd be like, "Hey woman. Go knit me a sweater." Or I'd be like, "Hey woman, get in the kitchen and cook me something to eat."

In the past, the girls I dated never tried to interfere with fishing, some participated. I found out though, that they usually only went fishing with me to land me, plus they heard how sexy I am when I fish It's people like RT and Osprey that I have to kick out of that grapevine

I would like my wife to join me but she is the type that would rather go to Nordys and shop until she drops. That is alright with me.
I have a ten year old son that I want to take but feel his patience level is about good for 30 minutes and then he is ready to explore the world- torture bugs, throw rocks as far as he can (when bankin), drink a six pack of pop (leaves pop cans half full)and in general do what 10 year old kids do! The good news is is that he does like to fish!
Back to my wife(whom I dearly love-seems to be the politically correct thing to say-just kidding)......
It is probaly a good thing that my wife does not go out with me and another fishing buddy due to the content of our conversations. You know, how cool we are,what babes are looking hot :D, how often we would like to have the squeeze box squeezed,how cool we are, an occasional profanity (never used around the wife), Mariners(she does like the Mariners), Seahawks and sports in general, not getting "it" enough , and slaming down some coldies (if she only knew how many we actually have I would think she might turn me in to AA), smoking good and bad cigars- gotta love those Swishers Sweets! Some major high levels of testosterone and great male bonding!
To some this sounds a bit immature but like fishing, life needs to be enjoyed to it's fullest ......with your wife on the river or without your wife!

Great Subject, My X wife liked to fish, when we first met it was up early and stay out all day, but as time went along it changed to I will meet you later or I will just fish the evening bite or I am not going to go if it is going to be ****ty weather.
Now for the best thing that has happend to me in a long time, My new girlfriend Pam, WOW this girl can do it all, She has only been steelhead fishing with me 4 times but she has caught 7 fish, How is that for an average. I had her casting a baitcaster right away and I just sit behind the oars and tell her where to cast6 and she does it to perfection and then I wait and listen for the fish on, she picked it up so quickly it is almost scary. I am sure that we are just going to slaughter the springers together and by the end of that season she will be wise beyond her years of experience as far as fishing goes. Not only that she is a great woman and we really enjoy eachother, I would definately say this is one to Marry.
She also wants to learn how to shoot a bow, another bonus!!! well If I do decide to Marry her, and she says yes, I don't think it would suprise anyone.
Peace Superfly

Hey Fly, does she have a twin sister!?

OFC, that funny my wife complains about the icky smells and kitchen mess too, but she is always the first one too suggest having fish for dinner! Sometimes I wish she would try fishing but Mac has a good point too.

I here you about that balance thing, I work a 4 day week so I get one at home and two on the water when things get hot!

Thomas

I did forget to mention one thing about Pam that definately gives her first seat in the boat besides be my girlfriend, and that is GIRL CAN ROW !! the first time out I let her get behind the oars and man, I was impressed, she did however tell me that I was telling her what to do to much, oh well, she has done really well and I cannot wait till she is really good because that is more time that I get to fish. Also her son her oldest son Tyler is going to be a great fisherman, I got him started on the right foot for sure, everytime that they are here at my house I cannot keep them away from the lake, the other day he was wacking the trout good, I told him to just wait until he gets his first springer!!
Peace Superfly

Hey guys Joe ain't telling no lies!!!! We were coming back from the Quinault and we saw Joe at the Satsop take and stopped to say hi. It had really rained that day, Pam was sitting in the front seat looking like a drowned rat (a cute one)I asked how they did, man you ought to have heard that girl go!!! I heard all about the fish she had caught, and how she had rowed the boat. and how Joe had left her alone with the boat in the pouring rain while they went and got the trailer. She said "Screw? them, I'm going to fish". It was great to see someone so excited about fishing.

I've been married 22 years and after that long I can go fishing when and where I like. I ask every once in a while if she would like to go. Never does, not a problem.

Fishhead5