Buck up and pay the judge. Two tickets? Forget the deferral. You're toast.
I likes the story about taking your kids to court for sympathy. Have any infants around?
I've won several favors over the years by coercion via smoked fish. Slip the judge some fish and see if he doesn't go a bit leaner on you.
And I don't know what you look like, but if you have a goatee or scruffy beard, shave it. And if you have piercings in your lips, nose and eyebrows, I'd remove them before going into court, too. Something about those just doesn't appeal to people over 40.
diana