Men/boys who are sexualized by porn are or were typically incapable of forming a normal sexual relationship with a female in their teenage years. Some were forced becaue of their looks or socical status. They continue this into adulthood. After marriage they are emotionally incapable of dealing with thier desires with their spouse so continue a fantasy life via porn and even prostitutes or extra marital affairs. Grown ups are able to relate their needs wants and desires to their partner or spouse in open and hoinest dialog and come to some forms of terms or agreement in a healthy relationship. Most marry the goody two shoes required by their paternal or maternal, societal reltionships but secretly desire the slut forbidden by thier upbringing or percieved stautus in their community. They cannot relate or resolve this conflict so they continue their childish habits. Viscous circle of justification and deception.