AuntyM... My wife would pound me stupid if I were to disagree with you on that !!!! She gets pretty wound up about those types of things. I asked her on the phone today if she thought that women who choose men that batter them knew in advance that it would turn out that way.... She said.. " I don't think they know it at the time because they are blinded by love but people around them can see it from the very start if they pay attention ".. Thats not a Phd talking thats just another woman who has seen a lot in her life.

So, she brings up the example of a guy I used to work with. He was a strange dude... total control freak. One day he did not show up for work. Our boss called his house and his wife said he ran off with all their money and would not be comming back. Long story short, they found him in the crawl space under their house two weeks later. She shot him six times while he was asleep. She said that it was because he had threatend to kill her " again".. All the other people at work were shocked... but I was not really surprized.. little things about him screamed wife beater ( always berating women behind their backs, always talking down to them ).. In the end, she is out at the Pen because she could have left at any time. She got 25 - life and I believe that he really did what she said. She did some interviews talking about the experiance. She said it was worth it being in prison and him being dead. She stated that know one knows how much fear a man can put in your head while he is pulling your hair with a gun in your ear while stuffing your head into the kitchen floor.. pretty graphic stuff. His family wanted her to get the death penalty.. There has been some speculation about her getting out sooner.