Dan S,
You are right about not knowing what a woman is like till you talk to her. I am not the best looking or smooth guy, but I have taken out some women that would any of you guys drool. The best looking of them is now in her mid thirties, has had four kids, and will still put any of Merg's girls to shame. She is the only woman I have taken out that I can call beautiful or a good freind and not get my wife jealous. Thats because not only is she beautiful, she is one of the nicest people you every met. When we went out she told me that she had very few friends. It seems most women would just treat her bad because of her looks and most guys would never get over drooling on her. I also remember years ago when a group of my friends and I went to a mall. Sitting alone at a table was one of the prettiest girls anyone had seen. A bunch of the guys kept going on and on about her so one of my freinds, probably most plainest of the group, said, come on guys, if you want to meet her just do it. With that he walked up, sat down and ate lunch with her. She told him that every day she would eat lunch there alone and never had anyone just sit down and talk to her. Gave him her number and asked him to call.
On the flip side, I can remember more than one time I tried to get to know a girl that was just average looking and found her to be the biggest snob ever, and then ended up taking out her much better looking freind who was much, much nicer.