I haven't had kids, but it seems like there are three main problems in each situation. Salmo G seems to know what's going on.

1. Parents not working as a team- It's like the military, how could you enforce your authority and get your subordinates to do what needs done if they can go to another supervisor and have them cancel your orders. It is crucial that parents are united, which is tough if you have marriage problems or your partner won't let you punish your children.

2. Lack of discipline- Actions have consequences, and kids should be taught this their entire lives. Modern society tells you not to punish your kids and let them do whatever they want, and people then wonder why they grow up to be spoiled brats. I was ed, grounded, etc, when I was younger, and I know I am better for it. I will do the same with my kids.

3. Buying your kids off- Giving your kids the best toys and house and money whenever they demand it, etc. is not a good substitute for spending quality time with them.

These seem to be the most common and major mistakes parents make. If you could somehow resolve those issues, I think things would improve and your kids would turn out better because of it. Again, I'm not a parent and am not professing to be an expert who knows more than you, I'm just stating my opinion.

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