JG, if your comment is directed at me I don't have any answers to what a happy marriage is or I'd probably still be married. They were probably the 10 easiest and best years of my life, we just started going in different directions.

But, all the talk about "the drama" that every woman brings to a relationship just sounds like an easy excuse to blame the other party for a failing relationship, or one where there ARE issues that need to be overcome. Most people aren't willing to look at their own misgivings because that might mean taking some responsibility in a situation. Usually it's just easier to blame someone else.

Not sure if this is a good analogy or not. An old friend of mine went thru something like 12 different jobs in 6-7 years. Everytime I asked him why he quit or was fired he say the boss/manager/whatever is just a [censored] asshole. So, were the 12 bosses all pricks or could it have been something he brought on himself?