COTR,

Congrats on the future granddad status.

It doesn't sound as though you were contemplating a celebratory swig from the bottle, so I presume you're not excited about being a father again at 42. What does your GF want? She is the one controlling your destiny now. If she wants a baby, you'll still be raising that child until you're 60.

My youngest finished high school when I was 48. I don't know about you, but I discovered that I just don't have the energy level that child rearing takes any more. I like kids and once thought I might take in a foster child after my own grew up and left home. The reality check of me being older changed my mind on that option. Another side of it is that while I'm more able to afford the cost of raising kids now, it's really nice to be done paying college expenses and spending some of my earnings on trips to AK, Europe, or Mexico, etc.

Having unprotected sex at your age makes you . . . well, what Sol said. You could try the Hail Mary. Best of luck.

Sg