I've never got the 35 then go thing???? At that point you'd think things are good and you're enjoying all the work you've put into the relationship up to that point. I spent to much time and emotional energy fruitlessly trying to save my first marriage. In hind-sight it was bad for me and my kids but thought I was doing the right thing at the time trying.
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. . . and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and have dominion over the fish of the sea . . .