Well for the most part I am anonymous here on the site, so not too concerned about being discovered and if so...so be it..
I have been married since 1999 and my relationship with wife has been ???
..it seems like she is such a wimp..no camping, no willingness to go fishing, NO outdoor sex, no help outdoors in the yard, me doing the dishes (90% of the time), most of household chores ie: dusting, vacuming, firewood, firebuilding, woodstove cleaning, all homeowner mishaps/failures (fall upon me), she has gained a LOT of weight. Lovemaking to her seems like a chore, it seems she has to be in a good mood, She sleeps ALOT and watches Oprah a lot, tonight I went and got dinner on Mothers Day (takeout) she ate dinner in her bedroom.

OK get the picture....
Positives....she makes 80 grand, I make 50, she does all of the books , bill paying and shopping, she is pretty, is a good mother, extremely faithful, we have 8 yr old daughter whom is absolutely awesome,

I recently coached her basketball team and am currently coaching her softball team, going to the state hershey trackmeet in three events in June.
I love her to death.
I read recently in relationships that one or both need to feel that the other is giving 110%. Personally I dont feel this, and i have never worked so hard in all of my life.
I am 41 currently battling demons with an out of wedlock child I fathered when I was 19. Our relationship is 98% non existant. I paid child support till she was 18 but she dislikes my wife and therefore has little/no relationship with us.
I know this is a strange place to seek advice but I have received sound advice for here before. Just curious as to people's thoughts. I haven't jumped to any decisions but I keep having this dream of a divorce. Thanks in advance for any responses.