if she had kids and didnt want any more, and you do, she wasnt right for you in the first place....

find someone who can be your best friend, shares the same interests, including the possibility of children, or whatever else you may want...

now if you are talking about advice on how to get back with her, id advise not doing so, because you still want children, and she doesnt, and if you try to force a chick to do something they dont want to, they will never let you forget it....

if you plan on doing an upgrade, dont do it from a bar... go fishing in a populated area, go to a game, a grocery store, hell maybe even church....

just stay the fvck away from bars....