Met my first wife in 1988 and married that same year. She knew I love to fish and in fact talked about how much she liked fishing with her Uncle who ran a charterboat for years out of Oregon. On our first date trip together I took her up on the boat from Edmonds to the San Juan's to fish the opening of Ling Cod. Ride up was smooth. Hit Haro Strait and it was rough. She lasted ten minutes and demanded to be taken to Friday Harbor. Should have got a big clue that things were not as she stated.

After 13 years of marriage she announced that she wanted to go to counseling. Met with the counselor who immediately acused me of having an affair. I never had an affair with anyone, then the counselor says that I have had an affair with fishing. All down hill from there.

We departed friends and still are today. We divided up our property around the kitchen table. She got what she wanted and I got what I wanted and we didn't care what things were valued at. Its a lot easier when you don't have kids and can be reasonable people.

Met my second wife 8 years ago and we have been married for almost five years. I love her to death and if there is anything to this soul mate stuff, she is definitely mine. I couldn't be happier. Now that we have been retired for six months and are 24/7 things are still great. But, I know she is looking forward to watching my arss leave tomorrow to work the boat show for the next ten days.

DrifterWA, all the best to you and my deepest condolences for your loss.

Steve Ng, your post is telling, hang in there!