This.

Truth: Over the last 4 years I pretty much gave up my life working on our property and building our house. I have continued to be busy working side jobs for money (with skills I picked up in the last 4 years) so money isn't an issue, time is. I have a stack of kitchen passes so tall, it has a flashing red light on top to warn the planes flying by.

I make sure I set time to spend with the wife, first and foremost. The boys (our sons) are our first priority, but I make sure she feels confident in our relationship everyday. I make sure she has her time to spend with friends, and I encourage her to do so. She does roller derby, so she gets lots of "her" time. Need a black eye? Talk back to my wife, the probation officer. No, really, that is what she does.

Whenever you return from a fishing trip, thank them for "letting" you go (mind fuk 'em), and make sure you are in a good mood. They will realize that "letting" you go fishing works out for them as well.

In truth, it is all about creating an honest relationship and reasonable expectations. You need to fish & hunt, as that is what makes you "you". A relationship will require some moderation at times.