There is a huge list of people on this board that are not qualified to give you any good advise with this and I am one of them. I believe there was no way to save mine without tossing my balls in the garbage and being unhappy.
The thought of me having a good time doing what I loved without her or with her while she wasn't enjoying it just pissed her off. I couldn't give it up and she just didn't get it. Game Over


Good luck. Hope she is worth the sacrifice or she figures it out. If your happyness doesn't mean anything to her gtfo.