Seastrike is right, don't fight it out with attorneys.........it'll cost you a ton. My second divorce cost me my house, car, boat(she sold immediately), $20K lump sum, $800 per month maintenance, $1,000 per month child support for my son(joint custody by the way) and my attorney charged me $17,000 for all that excellent work.

Let things cool a bit. Talk nicely and compromise. There is a mediation-style business in Everett that some of my clients have used and it really works. PM me if you want info.

Good luck. Go fishing.