Get a female attorney to represent you ASAP. Weak women have trouble whinning confronted with another strong female that is self made, such as one with a Law degree. If you get a male attorney it will be the battle of the sexes, and in court most times we lose in that senerio. Strong acertive women (female attorney) vs. women that earn there way by flat backing on men, or laying on the couch all day and whinning about it, is very revealing in the presence of other strong females, Counselors, Therapist or Judges.

As Aunty said, stand up to her. Have an attorney friend recommend a good female divorce lawyer, and then let her handle everything and go fishing. No need to wrangle with the wife anymore as that will get you no where anyway. Remember, you are in a War Zone. Let her ( your attorney) know what your concerns are, and have her speak to your soon to be X directly or through her attorney. I bet you, your wife will show more respect for your position and needs than she would if it was another male that she was confronting as your attorney.

It worked for me. A dysfunctional marriage can cause misery, disease and death. Much better to move on with your life and look forward to much better choices for dating and relationships.

Take a look at your own behavior and needs and figure out what you like in a relationship in addition to the sex. This is a time for healing as well, so fish hard and spend time taking care of number one.

Good luck man a congratulations on a new beginning.