first off, congratulations... finding the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is a great.

But saying "its just gotta happen one way or another" is another way to say "I'm holding out for that management position, and I'll keep buying lottery tickets till I get it". Here are a few goals that I guarantee will "make it happen":

quit smoking pot
go to bed early
get up early
get an entry level job
fix your car
find a better job
find the career you want

otherwise you will remain a deadbeat, a married deadbeat, but a deadbeat just the same.

My sister, the one I like, is married to a deadbeat just like the one you play on the internet. She works two jobs, drives him wherever he wants to go, pays his seat belt tickets, all while my retired mom shuttles their kids to school and back

I feel bad for my sister but especially bad for my mom, she is to old to be taking care of kids.

don't be a deadbeat